Secrets to a happy marriage For many married couples, falling in love and saying "I do" was the easy part. Living happily ever after is the part that takes a whole lot of work. Share everything with each other. Most importantly, everything you are feeling. There is no way to be on common ground if you don't communicate how you're feeling. Whatever bad stuff happens, remember this, too, will pass. Affection breeds more affection. Touch each other, kiss each other good morning, and have plenty of sex (even when you're old!). It's too easy to get out of the habit, which makes you feel distant. Intimacy and physical affection really help keep you connected. Children can be stressful, but they, too, will grow up. Let the little things go and think big picture. Take time for yourself to do what you love, what makes you happy and gives you energy — being successful as a couple will only work if each of you is strong and fulfilled as an individual. Avoid giving the silent treatment. Talk about things that bother you as soon as possible; don't let your emotions build up, because you'll likely explode. Let go of hurts more easily, and try not to dwell on things that annoy you. Don't be afraid to compromise. Don't take each other for granted. You have to work at it all the time. Be nice!love the person more than anyone else on the planet and you chose to marry them, so treat them with kindness. Be patient. You both might grow together at different times and in different ways, so you need to give and take to make it last forever. Celebrate when good things happen, and be expressive about it. Marry someone you like killing time with. Tell them what you need. As much as you want them to, they can't read minds. Tell them that you feel disconnected and that you want a day alone together or date . Build your partner up and support them to be all they can or want to be. Take time to put yourself in your spouse's shoes before judging. You want to avoid unnecessary criticism or negativity as much as you can. Make each other laugh. Try not to take everything so seriously. Communication is key. When your marriage hits certain speed bumps, remind yourself that when you come out on the other side, your relationship should be better and more evolved. Make sure the tough times lead to improvement, and if you keep making the same mistakes, reevaluate why. Be happy yourself. Say "I love you," and tell your partner they look attractive. Appreciate what you have and realize that marriages at times can be fragile and need to be taken care of. Call us for every event in Nigeria, meet event vendors near you on askvogue.com 08035885866